This Day is Yours Too
Happy Mother’s Day
To the Mothers of unmade children who are changing diets, lifestyles and relationships; trying alternative therapies, yoga, meditation. Trying anything anyone says because it worked for their sister’s mate’s cousin. Creating ovulation spreadsheets, studying fertility books, tracking cycles on fertility apps. Trying day after day, month after month, year after year to welcome a baby into a womb, a world. You are sacrificing so much for your dream-babies already. You are already Mothering them. This day is for you too.
To the Mothers of angel babies. The Mothers who are grieving, the Mothers who made children and lost them. Your perfect angels will live forever in your heart. This day is for you too.
To the Mothers who don’t feel like they made a baby because they lost only a handful of cells, who don’t feel like they should mourn so much and don’t understand why they’re still mourning. You are a Mother too. This day is for you.
To the Mothers of snow babies, those tiny frozen embryos, waiting and waiting for their turn to shine, waiting on ice for their big moment. To the Mothers praying their freezer-babies will survive the thaw, survive the pipettes and petri-dishes and survive the cold transfer to the warmth of you. Then praying again that they stick around. This day is for you too.
To the Mothers trying to decide what to do now. Deciding whether to try one more time. Deciding if they can handle another cycle, afford it, bear it if it doesn’t work again? To the Mothers trying to make decisions together with your partners. You are already parenting. This day is for you too.
To the Mothers who have made the decision to stop trying. The Mothers who will never see a positive pregnancy test, feel kicks, experience birth. The Mothers who didn’t get to be Mothers.
This day is for you too.
To those whose Mothers aren’t here anymore.
This day is yours too.